BOUNDARY SETTING
WHAT KIND OF BOUNDARIES DO YOU NEED?
How often have you said ‘yes’ when you meant to say ‘no’? Do you let people take advantage of your good manners and helpfulness? Is the world full of takers instead of givers? You are, of course, doing the right thing, and still, people are taking advantage of you. These people don’t know where to stop, don’t they?
As much as you want to blame this on other people, others taking advantage of you stems from you. Since no one told you how to set healthy boundaries, how would you know how to protect yourself?
YOU WILL BE KIND AND POLITE
It is necessary and sometimes difficult to set healthy boundaries. First, you must know that setting boundaries DO NOT equal being assertive and rude, and there is a polite, ethical and moral way to set boundaries.
The primary goal of boundaries is to protect your self-worth. When you preserve your self-worth, you feel balanced and strong, and Self-love comes from balanced and robust behaviors.
BOUNDARIES AND COURAGE
It is easy to set boundaries when you know how to do it. Yet, the courage to set boundaries is essential. That is why we mentally rehearse with NLP when we work on boundaries. Mental rehearsal of the event creates the neurology of familiarity.
It will become second nature when you are familiar with doing something efficiently, and it will become your habit. Hence, you will be protecting your self-worth habitually.
“The hardest part about change is not making the same choices you made the day before.” ~ Dr. Joe Dispenza
CATEGORIES OF BOUNDARY SETTING
INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP:
For some of your acquaintances, asking you to do things you don’t want to do anymore is a habit. It started at the beginning of your relationship with them, and now it is very uncomfortable to say no to them.
HIGHER AUTHORITY:
Next is the higher authority perspective, when you have yet to learn how to set boundaries without losing your job or your good graces with this person.
BUSINESS PARTNERSHIP:
Not doing equally enough for the business is a familiar feeling among business partners. The bitterness stems from the lack of boundaries and swirls into full-blown arguments ending up in splitting.
FAMILY RELATIONSHIP:
Moms, dads, sisters, and brothers -all family members- have installed exceptional ‘buttons’ to trigger you into compliance. Knowing how to communicate respectfully and enforcing your boundaries is necessary for self-confidence.
SCHEDULE YOUR SESSION TODAY
Start doing things differently, and you will change. $300/2 hours includes a short analysis and guidance for better thinking and awareness. Commonly 4 sessions will help you establish your new habits.
