First, it is good to know that anxiety is fear of the future. I hear the term anxiety as a ‘blanket’ explanation for every negative emotional state. Here is the correct definition:
“A worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event, or something with an uncertain outcome.”
The body and mind are interconnected systems. You have been training your body to respond to specific experiences since childhood. Until you were approximately seven years old, your environment programmed you without conscious awareness. Later on, with your age, your reasoning abilities start to evolve.
Through modeling behavior, you did your best to cope with emotional situations.
As an adult, memories can flood your mind from sometimes unknown triggers. You followed up by constantly thinking about what happened in the past. “Why have these things happened to me, and how could I have changed it? How should I have changed it? How would I have changed it?” You developed an anxiety disorder. Now your body knows better how to do anxiety than your mind. Anxiety is now an unconscious behavior.
Finally, after knowing that you couldn’t have done anything differently, your anxiety practice starts: “What if this happens again?”.
Your healing starts with a short discussion about what you want in the future to happen. To create a purpose that excites you.